Picture Love

On Sunday we had a photo shoot to mark Liam's first birthday. We haven't had professional pictures done since he was a newborn! Our lovely photographer, Tiffany at RyeTan Photography, scouted out Hillcrest farm for us and secured it as our location to shoot. Hillcrest is just across the border into Alabama. They sell eggs, delicious homemade ice cream, and other products. In the fall, they offer hay rides. Their farm is such a little gem, with lots of green grass, rustic buildings, friendly dogs and chickens for little kids to chase. We had a great time during the shoot and being there made me look forward to the day when we can settle down somewhere and have our own small plot of land for Liam to chase chickens around.

We have't seen all of the photos yet, but here are a few:

(sign made by me, copied from a design by Moulage on etsy)

                                              (His shirt was made by Personally Graced Gifts)

                       We LOVE this picture, but it's a little odd because that man does not look like Patrick!     
                                Doesn't this just make you want to frolick naked in a field, though" ;)

I love this romper. It's from Carters. They have tons of cute whale stuff this season! The banner was made by our photographer.

I can't wait to share the rest with you, especially the ones of him and the chickens!! :)

Sharing Is Caring

I love that, before they learn to be selfish, kids are selfless. I don't know at what point this changes, but at the moment Liam wants to share everything. He will happily shove his last goldfish in my mouth. Even if he only has one goldfish, he would want me to have it.

Once again, am important lesson taught to me by my eleven month old.

High Needs, High Spirit

I've mentioned before that Liam is a handful. Constant whining all day long.Waking up 2-12 times a night.  Dissatisfaction with the whole world. I really thought that Liam was a grumpy child and that all he needs is more sleep, or to learn to communicate better. 

But I'm realizing that Liam isn't simply grumpy. He is high needs - or, as author Mary Kurcinka calls it "spirited". Spirited sounds a lot more positive than high needs, but I don't have an issue with either term. I've been reading her book to help me learn how to better meet Liam's needs in order to make all our lives run more smoothly. Kurcinka is helping me realize that there isn't anything wrong with Liam; he is normal, times ten. He is normal, but more. 

This books is helping me, but also hurting me. It helps to have someone validate my experience with Liam, and to know I am not the only one who has a child like this. When I read other parenting books in the past, especially those designed to help you help your baby sleep, it really made me feel like a failure, because spirited kids don't respond well to that kind of treatment. A case in point is sleep. I guess it's no surprise that babies that are high needs during the day continue to be so at night. They all have different preferences as far as how those needs are met (some want to nurse, some want to be rocked, some want to simply play) but most of them don't like to simply be held and cuddled. Liam was never a cuddler, because he doesn't want to sit still. Because of this, Patrick has never really been able to help me parent Liam at night. Liam definitely falls into the nursing camp. We've attempted letting him cry it out, but he doesn't respond to that. Spirited kids get fixated and are very stubborn, and they will cry all night sooner than passing out. We've attempted crying in arms, and that works better than anything else, but he still wakes hourly after his first six hours of sleep. 

This is rough to deal with, to say the least. But it's not all. 

Spirited kids don't do well with change. Or crowds. Or bring told no. They are extremely sensitive.

Imagine this little face looking at you all day, accompanied by a high pitched wail (but no tears). That'll give you some idea of what I hear/deal with all day.

 But they also have a lot of characteristics that society admires in adults; it's simply hard to deal with in small children who can't reason or express their emotions very well. It's good to be able to look forward to the amazing adult my little boy is going to be, but in the mean time it can really put a damper on our days. 

Having a kid isn't what I expected it to be. I think this is normal to a certain extent. Everyone has expectations that can't be met. I simply thought that we would be able to do things as a family like go to the zoo, travel, go on walks and adventures. But this is often extremely difficult or even impossible to do. I still try. Every day. But the only way to keep peace with Liam is if I sit in the living room with my boobs out and let him have access any time he wants while I stare at the TV. That's not really my idea of a good life, though. 

Every day I am learning more about Liam's limits and what we can and can't do. So it's getting better. But it's still hard, especially for a person like me who likes calm, quiet environments. It would appear that I, myself, am a high needs person.

The thing that scares me the most is the thought of expanding our family and dealing with Liam while also taking care of a newborn. I know people do it every day, but I think it takes a very strong person to do it gracefully. I am not sure I have that strength. 

But Liam is teaching me. Every day, I grow stronger and into the kind of mother Liam needs.

Do you have a high needs child too? How do you cope? What parenting strategies have you found successful?

My Darling

We have been married for almost 2 years and four months now. It feels like much longer than that.

Which is odd because we were not one of those couples who dated for five years, celebrated many anniversaries, family reunions, birthdays, traveled together, or experienced much of anything to together before we were married.

Our relationship was a force of nature and we let it sweep us where it may.

There is a lot of back story to us that I won't bore you with. Suffice it to say: we met in january 2010, we became friends in April 2010, started dating in May 2010, and were married in December 2010. We got pregnant with Liam in july 2011.

Our relationship began with us being apart - I spent the summer traveling and studying in Germany (with my ex, no less) and missing Patrick fiercely, while he remained in Oklahoma. When I got back, I was homeless (due to a lease snafu) for about a month and let me squat in his tiny apartment. The man owned no furniture.   All he had was a plastic set of drawers and an air mattress on the floor. He didn't even have a door on his bathroom. Talk about intimacy. He had video games and stacks of paper and books everywhere and his clothes were folded and stacked on a window seat. For a neat freak like me it should have been a nightmare but I was with Patrick and that was all that really mattered. What followed was camping trips, volunteer events, releasing wildlife together (I worked at a wildlife rehab center) watching countless seasons of Gilmore Girls and Buffy and Angel and Family Guy together, adopting our dog, Marla, and many trips to the dog park. Then, a whirlwind wedding after a single month of engagement (what a nightmare).Six months after we married we honeymooned in our tent in Branson (for those of you who don't know, Branson is the Las Vegas for old people and one of my favorite places in the world). And one month after that we had a positive pregnancy test.

Liam definitely changed the dynamic of our family, especially since Patrick and I had yet to really grow together. First, Liam tore us apart. Patrick was still in many ways a child and definitely not the man or the leader of our family that I needed him to be. For months I battled with post partum depression and all I really wanted was to leave Patrick, but I didn't have the financial means to support Liam, and I couldn't face the ridicule of a failed marriage.

I felt so jaded and cheated. I felt like the only basis for our relationship - our physical attraction for one another - had been torn apart and we were suddenly left with nothing.  We had very little in common, I thought. He is an engineer and a pilot in the Navy. I am the tattooed girl with the labret piercing with a biology degree who wants to save the environment. He doesn't believe anything is wrong with how we treat the environment. (Or, at least, that's how he acts. I am still not sure about what he truly feels.How's that for communication skills?)

I think the initial physical appeal you feel in a new relationship always evens out. That doesn't mean you don't feel attracted to that person anymore. It simply means you don't need to jump their bones every chance you get anymore. Most people have some basis for their relationship other than that. Patrick and I had very little to hold us together, it seemed, from my point of view. Don't get me wrong - we had fun together, and he was my best friend. But that does not a happy marriage make.

After he tore us apart, Liam stitched us back together. Liam has forced us to get creative, both in terms of dates (tent forts on the living room floor) and baby-friendly activities (lots of hiking, beach time, rolling around on the floor in a heap, etc). We have learned so much about each other thanks to Liam. We have learned to respect each other needs. Learned to compensate for the others weaknesses and rely on their strength. We have learned to make a  big deal out of little accomplishments and to view even the smallest outing as a huge adventure.

I love that Patrick is Liam's father and his daddy and I wouldn't trade this for the world.

I love that he is my accomplice in this life, through thick and thin. No matter how it started, I know our relationship will never end.

Toddleing

I am beyond in love with our life right now. There are a few big issues looming over my head that are causing me anxiety, but mainly just LOVE.

My little boy is toddleing all over the place, smiling and whining and being a goof ball. Isn't this age just amazing? It makes me so happy and I wish I could freeze time and keep him this way forever. It's hard to imagine that not too long from now he will be seven, and then thirteen, and then eighteen and possibly gone. Even harder to imagine is what I will be like. 

Aside from the past few days of rain and storms, the weather here has been hinting of summer, which means we throw open all the windows and try to survive without the AC for as long as possible. Thank goodness my post pregnancy hot flashes have finally stopped, so I no longer feel the need to keep the house at 69 degrees. We cracked open the first watermelon of the year today. Last year, when Liam was still just the bulge inside my belly, we lived off of watermelon. He seemed to love it today, perhaps in recognition.

Liam got a little kiddie pool to splash around in, and spends a lot of time in his skivvies (which is great because he has outgrown most of his clothes anyway).

Watching him play and grow and learn makes my heart swell with admiration. I can't wait to see what kind of man he is going to become, what kind of big brother, what kind of person. 

He is growing up to be so handsome. These days it's hard to tell if he looks like me or his daddy.

He has started to talk with his lips all pursed, making the cutest little baby words. This morning he said "Bad dog!" to the dog.  

I love the gap between his teeth, but for his sake I hope it closes as the rest of his teeth come in. Kids can be so cruel. In the mean time I will cherish that gap, and those little lips, and those big, fluffy cheeks that are just so edible!

JOY

Babies seem to feel joy in ways adults aren't even able to. I love that deep, belly laugh; the way they suck air in as though they are about to hyperventilate when something really excites them.

Pure, unadulterated, joy.

Talk about living vicariously.

What Happens at the Playground with Daddy, Stays at the Playground (or not)

Liam said "Daddy" (instead of Da Da) for the first time today...

So Well Prepared

Did I mention, this weekend we were honored with the award for best parents of the year?

Yeah, not really...

I still haven't perfected the art of packing a diaper bag. This weekend, we were out and a about without a change of clothes for Liam. This wouldn't have been a problem if he hadn't gotten into the water at the beach...

He ended up having to wear my shirt home. Oh, we were out of diapers too. Thank God Pampers can hold a ton!

Happy Fun Times

Yesterday was the best day of Liam's life, thus far. It was also the best day we have ever had as a family.

It started with me getting to "sleep in" until 8 am. Then, a huge breakfast of bacon, almond flour pancakes, and eggs. My mom didn't make breakfast for us very often when we were kids; I was always jealous of the kids whose moms got up to cook for them. (My mom is not a morning person. I was the kid waking up her parents to make sure I got to school on time.) So I determined even then that I would make breakfasts for my family, and I love doing it.

After breakfast, we decided to take our Boston terrier, Marla, to the dog park. My relationship with Marla has been strained ever since the baby has come along. Not only am I suddenly very sensitive to smells (and she has a skin condition that makes her smell like a corpse anytime fresh air hits her) but also to sounds.

Do you have any idea the kind of awful sounds flat faced dogs will make?? Do ya??

My mom has a Boston, and he is wonderfully calm. Marla, not so much. She danced and jumps and tramples on your feet with her awful claws and makes you bleed. She has no regard for human life, especially not that of a babies. So she has spent much of the last 7 months or so either in the back yard or in her crate. Now that Liam is getting bigger, and he can hold his own with her, things are getting better.

Taking her to the dog park reminded me of why I liked her, and dogs in general, in the first place.

The park we went to was small but awesome. A stretch of beach had been fenced in for the dogs, so they were able to go in the water to play and fetch balls.

Marla likes to herd other dogs; she was OBSESSED with this dog.

These 3, 250 pound mastiffs were gentle giants. Just the kind of dog Liam needs. They were incredibly calm and chill.

It was only noon when we left the park, and the whole glorious day stretched ahead of us. 

We decided to head downtown, since many of the restaurants there have outdoor seating and it was too hot to leave the dog in the car. Every Saturday, there is market there with vendors selling handcrafted items, local meats, etc, and I was excited to visit it. Lo and behold, they don't allow dogs, so we had to pass on it. We ended up eating lunch at one of our favorite places - Pita Pit. If there is one near you, and you have't tried it yet, do so. NOW. I fully endorse this brand, even though they are not paying me for it. Sadly.

At this point, Liam has been up for 5 hours without a nap. He usually doesn't go more than 3. So we loaded up and Liam fell asleep close to the house. I was totally high on the success of the day - ZERO meltdowns! and wanted to take advantage of the mood. So we ditched the dog at home and headed for the beach.

Let me just say, we go to the beach several times a week. I know Liam loves it. But yesterday was the first really WARM day we had, where people other than crazy surfers were getting in the water. 

I took Liam up to a tidal pool that kids were splashing around in, and set him down to stand in front of it. He dipped a toe in, squealed in shock and jumped away... and then ran into the water to the have the time of his life. Lots of splashing, crawling, laughing, wet-sand-eating ensued. 

Seeing Liam wrapped up in a towel wearing nothing but a diaper and eating a post-play snack made me realize what a person he is. He isn't just a baby anymore. We can do things with him, as a family, and have him involved. Our outings don't always have to be executed with gritting teeth and a screaming baby. 

Life is, dare I say it, fun again!

In case you are wondering, that strange sea monster I found is a sea louse. I'd never seen one before; they look like alien bugs.

To sweeten the animal-sighting pot a bit more, check this out....

That, my friends, is what we call an osprey nest. Osprey's seem to be quite common around here. I seem them almost daily, and we pass two nests on the way to the beach.

At the end of a long, awesome day, Patrick and I cuddled up beneath our blanket fort in the living room with cupcakes, beer and cinnamon pretzels to watch Supernatural.

Perfection.

11 Months

Yesterday, my Liam Lamb turned 11 months old. That's almost a whole year.

One year of love, cuddles, travel and adventure.

One year of sleepless nights, more nursing sessions than I can count, and even more tears (from both of us).

One year of baby clothes, most of which have now been folded away because they no longer fit.

One year of spit-up stained laundry.

One year of chubby baby hands grabbing at mama's hair.

One year of smothering stinky baby feet with countless kisses every day.

One year, but not yet. Just almost.

                        ~ ~ ~

In the mean time, Lammy is walking like a pro. Sometimes he sleeps well, mostly he still doesn't. 

He loves the playground, playing with the big kids, and he loves water most of all.

His favorite place to sit is the couch, because it makes him feel like a big boy.

He loves to roll around on the living room floor with me, and rest his wee head on pillows (or the dog) (or my tummy).

He gives the best, slobbery, toothy kisses any momma could ask for.

Congrats, baby.

I can't believe they let us leave the hospital with you, but here we are, eleven months later, still chugging a long. Momma loves you.

Time to Ride!

Before Patrick and I even got pregnant, I was eyeing a bike seat for babies. In Germany, where I am originally from, everyone bikes. So if you have a kid, naturally you will have a bike seat for them, or a trailer. While you can use some trailers from just about newborn age up, bike seats are generally only used after one year of age.

I have been patiently waiting for my Lamkin to turn one. I could wait no longer! Since he is 11 months tomorrow, we decided it would be alright to go ahead and get a bike seat.

We got the Bell Cocoon, which you can view here.

There are several things I love about this seat!

First off, it has a 5-point harness. Safety first! It also has a cushioned seat, which the cheaper seats usually don't have. (Speaking of cheap, we got our seat at Toys R Us for $80. Searching for a link for you made me realize I got have saved $20 had I ordered it from Amazon. D'oh!) Second, the sides add extra protection and really do make the seat seem like a cocoon. And third, the lap bar gives Liam something to hang on to and prevents him from leaning forward. Lastly, there is also a light reflector on the back, should I ever chose to ride in the dark (hey, with his sleeping habits these days, I just might try it to get him to sleep!).

We also got him an adorable little helmet with octopi and piranhas on it. He looks super cute.

Since my child doesn't like anything involving sitting, holding still, and *shudder* especially not STRAPS, I wasn't sure if he would like it.

But...see for yourself.

He was quite happy.

He was mainly quiet when I started biking, so I am not 100%  sure about his mood, but he didn't complain and he swung his legs, which usually means he is happy.

I really wished for a rear view mirror so I could see what was going on back there! 

Since we live off the side of a busy highway, we won't be able to leave the neighborhood, but it's better than nothing. We can still get out and feel the (chilly) wind and the (hot) sun on our skin (Florida weather is weird). 

For those of you who are interested in trying one of these yourself but are nervous: don't be! I honestly didn't notice the extra weight at all. It was tiny bit harder to balance initially, until I picked up speed, but other than that, it was a breeze!

I will probably invest in a trailer once we have a second child. I don't have any experience with them myself, but outsidemom.com has a review which you can read here.

Raising a Boy to be a Good Man

When I first found out I was having a boy, I was heartbroken. Gender disappointment is a real thing, not a vain, heartless concern of the mother. You can read about it here. Those who feel it, feel it for different reasons. For me, I only wanted one child, and I wanted a girl. Probably to work out some mommy issues. Not to mention the fact that having a boy simply terrified me. Let's just say, I have some daddy issues too.

Sometimes, I am still scared of raising a boy to be a good man. I don't want to coddle him too much. It's easy for mothers to do. We love our little boys and want to spoil them, in a different way than moms love their daughters. I want to raise Liam to be strong. Independent. Courageous. Reliable. Strong. Opinionated. 

But, I also want to raise him to understand that women are these things too, and they deserve respect and good treatment. I want him to know that, even if his significant other hasn't been viewed to think of herself or sex this way, that intercourse is more than just that, more than just pleasure, more than just what two people do because they love each other.

I want to teach him to hold doors open for women, to bring them flowers just because, to pick his dirty clothes off the floor and to help make the bed and do the dishes. I want to teach him good personal hygiene, and to be kind. 

Am I being idealistic? I don't think it's wrong to teach my son that, in a man's world, women hold their own place too, and he has a responsibility to see to it that sisters, mothers, friends and wives are treated the way they want and deserve to be treated. 

I want to teach my son to be like his father.

Where the Wild Things Are

Liam and I have been sick this past week so we didn't do much besides recuperate. The furthest we got from the house, aside from the store, was the playground three doors down.

Liam is only happy when he is moving and there are things happening. Sometimes, very rarely, he will sit down in my lap for thirty seconds or so and just be still. He's also recently adopted the habit of cuddling with the floor. He likes to lay his head down on soft things and grin at me with his big, toofy grin.

The playground is an easy way to wear off some of his excess energy.

He is a boy, through and through.

Yesterday I decided it was safe for us to leave our quarantine and go on a play date. It's not that we even felt all that sick, but I didn't want to risk getting other kiddos sick. Nobody wants to be that mom. I figured a week was plenty of time and we are no longer contagious.

So we went to the zoo with my best Pensacola friend, Jennifer, and her 6 month old, Joanna, who just happens to be Liam's best friend.

The day started off with a less than ideal start, with Liam waking up at 6:30 am.

Don't get me wrong, I am a morning person. But for me, morning starts at 7am. Anything earlier than that is still considered night in my book. Since he woke earlier than I had anticipated we needed to adjust our plans a little and leave for the zoo at 8:30 so the kids would nap during the 45 minute drive. We met up at Jennifers and piled into her Jeep. We both expected the event to be a day trip and we packed like we were going on a road trip.

Over prepared much?

Of course my grumpy little guy started crying just a few minutes into the drive. And made Joanna cry. The last time we had them in the car together all hell broke loose so we decided to pull over and nurse them and hope that would placate Liam.

No go.

He cried while Joanna watched him, probably thinking about what a "bad" baby he is.

If it had just been me I would have let him cry, to tell you the truth. I know that stopping doesn't fix anything because he will continue to cry, and be even more angry, when we get back in the car. If I let him cry for a few minutes he would fall asleep and, while I generally don't support the CIO (cry it out) method, if I stopped the car anytime he cried, I would never get anywhere. But there's always so much pressure to comfort a crying baby (not that I don't feel the urge myself, I just know it doesn't do any good with him) when you are with company.


So we stopped again, twenty minutes out from the zoo, and went for a walk at the beach while the babies slept in their ergos.

Did you know that the beach, at 9:30 am, in March, is extremely cold? But, the waves are the best thing  you could ask for to lull a baby to sleep. So I let my feet grow numb and kept walking.

Once Liam and Joanna woke we sat in the car for a bit longer while Liam and I had a snack of some chicken breast I had marinated and cooked that morning. I have to snack throughout the day or I get HUNGRY and ANGRY and Liam, well, he just likes to eat. So chicken at 10 am it was.

Both kids were fairly quiet once we got back to driving.

The zoo was another matter. Joanna, as always, was very well behaved. I swear, that girl has the sweetest temperament. I am sure she has her bad moments as well, and I have heard of them, but I just haven't seen them. Liam on the other hand displays his true colors any time he gets a chance.

                                       He loved the donkeys, and the tigers made him laugh.

I had high hopes for the day, but it was just progressing on a downward projectory and there was nothing I could do to stop it. After just a few minutes, Liam didn't want to be in the stroller anymore, and he didn't want to be in the ergo either. So I ended up having to carry him on my shoulders, while Jennifer pushed the stroller and carried Joanna in her carrier. We scooted out of there as quickly as possible and ended up only having been in the zoo for maybe thirty minutes.

Did I mention we actually had to cross STATE LINES to get there?

It was a waste of time.

It was good to socialize but outings like these always depress me. In January I took Liam to Germany and Austria and while he did exceptionally well on our extremely long flights and layovers, he was one giant FIT the two weeks we were there. It made doing anything impossible, including sleep. During that time I regressed into my post partum depression days a bit and wondered what in the world beseeched me to have a baby so young. I should have actually been seeing the world, not squatting in my parents' living room because my baby couldn't handle life.

Please don't misunderstand me. I don't regret having Liam. I love my baby boy beyond anything else and I would give my life for him in a heart beat. When he shines, he shines brighter than anything else in the world. But he can also be a storm cloud, usually on occasions when it is very important to me that he behave well, like on our day trip to Salzburg.

And it really annoys me when people can't understand that I have a grumpy, high needs baby. I am not imagining things. Please don't play his behavior down. Don't make excuses like, "Oh, the air smelled funny, you can't expect him to have tolerated it". No. It wasn't the air. It was HIM. He's not hungry, he's not thirsty, he doesn't need his diaper changed. It's his personality. And while I am learning to not have any expectations, and my capacity for patience is growing exponentially, it's still difficult. So comfort ME, and other parents like me, who have high needs children and need help and understanding. Not excuses. because it only undermines our own feelings of helplessness, inadequacy, and even dispair.

This is Liam's general disposition. I am hoping that, as he grows and is able to communicate his needs better, he will become less fussy. For the time being, it's what the Lord has blessed me with, and I am as eternally grateful as I am frustrated.

Spread Too Thin

I have a vice. Imagine that.

My problem is that I can't let others be good at something. It makes me feel inferior. I guess you can say that really I just have an inferiority complex. This mixes with my interest in absolutely EVERYTHING and causes me to pursue every possible hobby I could. But I don't just view these things as hobbies. Oh no. I must make a career out of them, somehow, if only for five minutes.

Basically, if someone else is interested in something, I am too, and I must prove that I like it just as much as they do and that I am just as good at it. This dose of honesty makes me sound like quite a nice person, huh?

I'm really not mean about it, though. This isn't the type of thing where I bash the other person to make myself feel better about myself.

No, I just bash myself.

And it's really starting to take a tole on me. Aside from this blog, I also run a small Facebook shop. I make baby goods. I also have to have a spotless house; I must be with my baby at all times; I must be outdoors at all times but I am also a homebody; I must cook everything from scratch; etc, etc. Between this and the one million hobbies I've forced upon myself (hobbies that I actually LOVE when they aren't such a chore) life has gotten to be fairly rough. I am spread too thin, and it's really causing the quality of all my work to suffer.

I wish I could dedicate myself to only one thing, or a small handful of things, and be very good at those few things, instead of mediocre at so many thing.

What kind of an example am I setting for Liam, my son, when I act this way? I want to raise a leader, not someone who doesn't know what they want to they just want what everyone else is having. Like Maggie in Runaway Bride who doesn't even know what kind of eggs she likes.

I didn't use to be this way. When I was a teen I was a goth. Seems so long ago ans foreign to me now. I went to a small school and I wasn't the only goth, but I didn't hang out with others like me, so I suppose I was isolated, in a way. I just did what I wanted to do for my own reasons.

But I'm not like that anymore.

I thought adults were supposed to have more confidence, purpose. I thought by the time was 23 (next month!) I would have more of a self identity. Instead, I still constantly look for guidance from everyone else, like I don't know what I'm doing. I even ask non-parents for parenting advice, as if I didn't know what's best for my child!

This has got to stop. I have got to stop belittling myself, take control of my life, and only do the things that make ME happy, as opposed to those that make other people happy. I just don't know how, yet.

Am I the only one that feel this way?

An explanation

Is it cheesy to do an introductory post? Should I play the role of the elusive, mysterious vixen that draws you in by not throwing too many details at you at once, so you will be dying to know me?

Maybe.

But I really can't flatter myself that much. To be honest, I am not the type of person who would ever inspire a cult following like I've seen some other bloggers do. I'm a good writer, but my voice doesn't translate well in blogging. Or on the internet in general. But, I am not trying to impress anyone here. Just trying to chronicle my day to day life, in an honest and real way.

I see a lot of glorified living on other peoples blogs. Dinner photographed to perfection. Nurseries that look yummy enough to eat. Fashion sense I could never hope to aspire to. People having more fun than I can even  imagine. And that's ok. The internet is THE place to hide, to glorify our lives and be able to get away with it.  But I don't want to do that, because I have left one too many blogs feeling like crap about my own flawed life as a woman, wife and mother - even though I know there is no way anyone is doing it any better than I am because I am doing the best I can.

So that's what you're going to get out of me.

Some days you will see pictures of us at the beach that make it look like we had SO MUCH FUN, when in reality the fun we was having were heavily interspersed with my sons incessant nagging (he is a high needs child, so he can go from smile smile SMILE to major whining in a negative span of time. Seriously. It's that fast), too much wind, and lots of frustration and self pity. That doesn't negate the fun we had. The fun (almost) always outweighs all the bad. But as anyone with a kid knows, motherhood - or fatherhood - isn't all sunshine and rainbows. It's lots of poop, tantrums, and crying in the car.

I will try to be as honest as I can about this. If that's not the kind of blog you are looking for, that's fine and I don't blame you. But I hope you will read and follow along our daily adventures because, let me tell you, whether we spend the day in our pajamas or hike Mt. Everest, it's always an adventure :)